Content warning: In this post I discuss my history with dating, mine and other’s ways of seeing fat bodies, and assumptions and beliefs I held and hold about dating. My narrative here implies relationships are heterosexual and monogamous, which is just the way I envision and have my personal romantic relationships. I know that romantic relationships can be structured and experienced in multiple ways, so I wanted to warn about my limited discussion here.
Most people have entered the dating world long before 27, and I suppose I had my few experiences talking to and “dating” a few people throughout my late teens and early twenties. It wasn’t until late into my 27th year, though, that I met someone that I actually dated, someone who I talked to every day, saw multiple times a week, and formed a relationship with.
Today I’m attending an academic conference about writing, so I decided on a professional but fun dress by Anna Scholz for Simply Be.
What are you wearing today?
Wooohooo! Wedding day post! Not mine, of course, because I am perpetually single, but my brother and Brittany’s! This day was so perfect. A week and a half prior we were having non-stop rain, so the glorious sun and slightly chilled autumn air felt truly magical. The wedding was at an outdoor venue, and was decorated beautifully. Everyone was in a good mood (which for my family is sometimes hard :-p), and the bride and groom’s joy was palpable.
Figuring out what to wear to an evening, outdoor wedding of your sibling is a little complicated (or maybe I just made it that way). I knew it would be cool/cold, so I wanted long sleeves and a long length, not so easy to find! So many dresses in plus sizes are sleeveless, and it was hard to find a long dress that wasn’t styled like a summer-time maxi dress. I found a dress through ASOS, but it hugged my stomach. I went back and forth about wearing it because, while I liked the dress and felt good in it, the idea of seeing so many people from high school and having formal pictures taken reared my insecurity’s ugly head for weeks. Let’s just say that 5 years later with blogging about my body size and fashion, I’m realizing that body acceptance is constant work and practice for me. I finally just went for it. I liked the style and the color, and I was going to have to just get over the fact that it hugged my stomach and that it would show in pictures.
I was right. It did hug my stomach, especially in pictures, but I also felt awesome and confident in it all night. My confidence made the night fun and memorable. I danced, I played off awkward moments well, I talked to people I hadn’t seen in years and people that I just met, and I was able to forget my insecurity enough to put the attention where it needed to be: Danny, Brittany, family, and friends.
My cousin, Blythe, and me – She’s now my roomie!
This moment was one where you are forced to recognize how adult your little brother is. I’m really proud of the man he is and how he values Brittany as a partner.
Mom and me
Sister Katie and me
I mean, look at my brother’s smile. So happy for them both. Love you, Danny and Brittany!
This weekend was my brother’s wedding, and he married the wonderful Brittany, who you may recognize because she came with me to FFFWeek back in 2013. It was a really exciting weekend, and we had been looking forward to these events for months. I probably (most definitely) had been worrying about what to wear to both the rehearsal dinner and wedding a little too much, but the weekend came and all went well. I’ll have to discuss shopping for a dress in another post because as much as we like to think plus size fashion has gotten so much more accessible, shopping size 24+ is still an overwhelmingly frustrating experience.
But! Back to the good stuff :)
My sister Katie put in so much time decorating and setting up for the rehearsal dinner, which was held in my parents’ back yard. It was beautiful! She painted jars, set up candle displays, made bouquets. and set up a loving mood.
I had originally planned to wear an olive green dress from ASOS, but I wasn’t completely happy with the dress, so I decided to keep looking. A couple days before the rehearsal dinner, I decided to check out Dillards at my local mall. I don’t think I’ve ever shopped there before. I imagined it to be like Kohl’s, but it’s definitely not. I was really impressed with how many semi-formal options they had, and how large of a space their plus size selection was housed in. I ended up finding this sparkly Jessica Howard dress that is 100x better in person than through pictures. I had to laugh because the dress was a size 22, and I must have tried on 10+ dresses in a size 24 that didn’t fit. I had given up on finding anything in store when I spotted this number, and it was on super-sale for $35!
I finished the look with gray wedges from Target and earrings and a bracelet from Charming Charlies.
My sister Katie and brother-in-law Brandon
Brittany and me
The whole gang of Agosta siblings and spouses.
P.S. I’m officially the only one (out of 4 total) of my siblings who is still single and unmarried. Do I win an award? I should get something for always ending up on the end of the table or the end of pictures 😉
I’ll share picture from the wedding soon, and will continue to blog sporadically on here. Thanks for checking in every couple months!
Last night I posted on Instagram that I had gone a wee bit overboard with purchasing new items from Eloquii. I’ve been checking them out since their relaunch, and I was really happy to see that they began extending their size range from 14-24 to 14-28 in select styles. I wasn’t in the market, at the time, to get those items though. I also was a little apprehensive about the sizing. Since I wear their new top size, I figured that the items would most likely be too small. I don’t know why I thought this… I guess because finding items that fit at Lane Bryant was even an issue, so I assumed a new(er) brand would fit even worse. First they came out with skirts and pants, but now they’ve started offering more types of items and styles.
I decided to try out a skirt and a dress at first. When those fit really well, I went for other tops, pants, and jackets. I think I bought maybe 10-12 pieces in the span of 2 weeks, which is a lot, but I also got them at really good prices (around 40-50% off of each item). Eloquii has the best sales, so keep an eye out for them. Anyway, long story short: people expressed that they’d like to hear more about the fit of the extended sizes. Like I was, they were nervous to try them out, so here are a few items that I purchased and my thoughts on the fit.
A note about my shape: I’m 5’4″ with a pretty long torso compared to my legs. I carry the majority if my weight in my lower abdomen, hips, and backside. I also have large arms that make fitting into some tops hard.
I feel like this dress looks much better in person than it does in this photo. I really like the shape and material of this dress. It’s a good medium weight with plenty of stretch. It hits me below the knee. The waist is dropped lower than most other dresses that I have, so I like that it is a different shape for me. For people taller, the line might hit them at the upper waistline. I see this as a great dress for work, so the high neckline is a plus. I plan on playing around with jackets, sweaters, and belts for different looks with this dress.
I really love the fall colors they are putting out with this fit. I got this color, which is a beautiful deep blue-green, and the Merlot. In the extended sizes, Eloquii only offers this pant in their regular inseam. If you are size 14-24, they offer petites and talls. The inseam works well for me, but I am 5’4″. I could imagine that this would be short on taller people. I am using up the entire width of the pant though, so if you are smaller than me then it might lay differently. Fitwise, the legs fit me perfectly, but the waist, right at the closure, was a little tight. The fabric does have some stretch, so I was able to still wear them. I might have to reinforce the button because they are a little tight. As you can see in my side pic though, I’m at my widest at the closure, so it makes sense that it’s tighter there.
Classic Faux Leather Moto Jacket in Wine
With this piece worn open, it’s almost a little big on me, mostly because there is extra room in the shoulders and arms. I do like it a lot though, and once I’m wearing sweaters and bulkier clothing, I’ll be happy for the extra room. I like how high quality this piece it. The sleeves have zippers at the wrist, so I unzipped those and rolled up the sleeves. Rolled down, the sleeves are a little long on me, which is very typical for how items fit me.
I promise I have legs under that skirt. I also promise that it hits me right below the knees. Besides the bad angle, I really like this skirt! I could have probably sized down once, and I’m finding that might be the case for most of their skirts (I have another on the way, so I’ll see then). Because this skirt is not form-fitting, you’re really trying to size it to wear it will sit on your body. Since it’s on my waist, I could go down one, but this still works too. The fabric on the skirt will keep its shape and not wrinkle. It has has a good bit of stretch. Definitely a comfortable piece!
The top is a style that I would wear to work. The sleeves sit on a weird part of my arm, but they are meant to be 3/4. Again, with sleeves mostly running too long on me, this makes sense. I might have it altered. This top felt like it was made for the shape of my body. I appreciate tops that have more space around the hip area.
Ponte Faux Leather Peplum Top
I was worried that this top’s sleeves would be too short, but they fit all right. For the most part I like the fit of this top. Next time I would wear it with jeans that had a higher rise so that my waistband wouldn’t create a crease. I’d also like another inch or two on the hem so that if this top rides up then it will look okay. This top along with the dress shows me that my waistline is a little higher than their fit.
Overall, I’m excited to have another option for finding items that fit (and fit well!). I feel like my work wardrobe is already much better just for the options that the Kady pant offers. Good bye days of only wearing black or gray pants!
Have any of you tried Eloquii in the extended sizes? If you have a different shape or height than me, it’d be great to hear about your experience with their items!
A couple months ago I ordered Kiyonna’s Uptown Faux Wrap Skirt in black and white, and I received it right before I went to the beach with my sister. When I say right before, I mean it. I brought the package unopened on the trip and figured I’d try them on at the beach. As soon as I put them on, I was so very impressed. Usually body-hugging skirts will be too-body-hugging for me to want to wear them, but it felt like this skirt was made for my body, and the fabric was both thick enough to lay nicely while also stretchy enough to conform to my shape. For this post, I went with more casual looks, but like most of Kiyonna’s clothing, this piece can be dressed up or down depending on the occasion.
Worn with an Old Navy print tank, Old Navy tote bag, and Target sandals
Rating of Kiyonna’s Uptown Faux Wrap Skirt: Two thumbs up! It is lined, and it hid my tucked in black tank top. The material is very comfortable, so sitting, standing, walking, etc. will not be an issue. I personally love the folds and lines of the faux wrap.
P.S. Kiyonna is celebrating turning 19 for the month of August. Get 25% off your order with the code CANDLES25. Code not valid on certain items (see their website for details).
How would you wear this skirt?
If you’ve worn it differently and have it up on instagram or a blog, link it in the comments
*I purchased this skirt on my own, but I am still part of Kiyonna’s Blogger Brigade, so you may or may not see these pictures on their website and social media. All opinions are my own.
On Thursday my sister Katie and I headed out to Virginia Beach for a mini-vacation and my friend Courtney’s wedding. As soon as we got to our hotel, we put our swimsuits on and headed out to the beach. From talking to various plus size women, it seems like swimsuits are one of the harder types of clothing to find and suggest, and I think it’s because they really are so individual to our bodies. Even within a specific brand, one swimsuit can fit me well and one will not fit me at all. Some advice that often gets said is “try everything on – even items not in the plus size section”, and I’ve been known to roll my eyes a time or two at that saying because it may work for smaller plus sizes but often doesn’t for me — well swimsuits are one area where the “try EVERYTHING” method works well for me. In one of the plus size groups I’m involved in, people were talking about wearing bras under swimsuits, and I think that’s a possibility too, especially for those who are very top heavy. Do what makes you feel secure and comfortable.
For me, that was wearing a swim top from Target’s maternity line. Yes, maternity line. They are cut with snugger support in the chest and more room in the hips/tummy – perfect for my shape. A couple weeks ago, I couldn’t find my higher waist bottoms, so I wore shapewear bottoms from Catherines that do not fit tight. I ended up liking them better, and they are swim-ish material, so I wore those as bottoms. So yea, this is like the Frankenstein of swimsuit outfits but it works perfectly for me.
The next morning we woke up and had breakfast along the beach and boardwalk. Mimosa + Eggs Benedict = Amazing!
Saturday evening we headed out to Courtney’s wedding. I felt the need to document my hair and make up because I knew the heat and humidity would ruin it all haha. I wasn’t wrong!
The ceremony was beautiful. I haven’t seen Courtney in 2-3 years, so it was really a treat to hear her voice again and see her.
I wore an H&M maxi dress, which I super love.
Overall, it was a wonderful (but short) getaway, and it was even more special because it was spent with my sister